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WHERE IN YOUR LIFE DO YOU EXPERIENCE UNCONDITIONAL

WHERE IN YOUR LIFE DO YOU EXPERIENCE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?
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Today we talked about Enneagram type 2 in the course, Remember Who You Are.
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This group of women are doing their own inner work to “excavate their essence,” while they face pain and hurt head on.
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It is a task that takes courage, sobriety, humility, and grace.
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When exploring the type 2 in you, inquiry is a good place to start.
♥️ When has love been a felt experience unattached to an object, person, or deed?
♥️ In what situations have you used love as a commodity or as proof?
♥️ Where do you love unconditionally? **that one is a tough one, I think. be honest.
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If you or someone you love identify as a type 2 at the average levels, you probably attach your value to your relationships. You are thinking of others all the time....and then maybe you are wondering what they think of you.
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At the highest levels, you love yourself and others and want that for everyone. Love is not a response to anything; it just is. It is really so beautiful.
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I’d love to hear your thoughts on the inquiries. Or even what emotion they bring up in you. It’s tough stuff, this love thing.
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As I said to my cohort of seekers today, “Type 2 is a doozy for me.”
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How about you?

Critical Perfectionism. Rational. Reasonable. . T

Critical Perfectionism. Rational. Reasonable.
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These are all words you might hear associated with Enneagram type 1.
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This is a quote from a client I've been working with for a long time. A young man who is learning so much about himself before he heads off to college.
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This week, the "aha" moment was that his drive to be the best both motivates him and separates him from people. As he heads down the levels of his personality, he is either good or bad; smart or stupid; the best or the worst; a victim or not.
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The questions he is asking himself are how to find other motives for keeping up in his classes.

What is your version of this?

If having someone to beat is the only motive you have, what is the impact on you? It's protecting you from something; what is it?
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For this client, the question I asked was, "What 2% of that class do you love? Where do fine joy?" Once you break the "all or nothing" pattern, you make room for possibility. So...what about you?
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To be clear, this drive for perfectionism does not come from malice. You don't know any better. It is a deep drive for integrity. For goodness. At the higher levels, you want to be good and you want all of that for others, too. It is such a beautiful quality. But at the average levels, you only know how to get (what you think is) goodness, by judging (yourself & others), perfecting, and endless activity.

For today, look for the lightness in your day. Find joy in the activities you might dread. Notice where you judge yourself and others. If you identify with type 1, it is likely the carbonation bubbling just beneath the surface.

WHAT IF YOU HAD THE SAME PRESENCE THAT YOUR DOG HA

WHAT IF YOU HAD THE SAME PRESENCE THAT YOUR DOG HAS?

Just in case anyone is wondering how the morning went at the vet….

I think a lot about this.

Dogs, I think, are always present.

I am actually more present with my dog than with people. I have nothing to protect, promote, or defend, when I am with Hattie. Sparky…I’d have to think about that little guy. But I am always aware of Hattie’s presence with me and my presence with her (PS. It’s the same with people; bringing presence to a situation always raises the vibration).
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She was happy to leave the house and ride in the car, but the moment we turned the corner at Edgell Road, she started to whine.

🚨Her body told her the truth of where she was.
🚨Her mind told her that where she was is the way to the vet.
🚨Her heart told her that she wanted something else.

It was so clear. She saw the truth, in the present moment, with intelligence.

🐶And she responded accurately. She started to whine.

🐶And when we turned into the driveway and stopped the car, she crawled on to my lap and wanted comfort.

Amazing what happens without a story. If it were me, it would look like, “I shouldn’t have to go here,” or “You’re an asshole for taking me here,” or “If I took better care of myself, I wouldn’t have to go there,” and those stories can last for years.

But when we are present, and feel the emotion that is real (fear?), we can respond by asking for comfort without judgment.

Presence doesn’t mean we get what we want and it doesn’t mean we are happy. It means we are real. True. Authentic. Showing up as we are. 💯

How amazing would it be if we could all show up this way?

True self to true self. Soul to soul. It would be amazing.🐛➡️🦋

Feeling particularly groovy today. . WHY? . 👑 I

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