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EVEN IN YOUR SUFFERING, THERE IS A PLACE FOR GRATI EVEN IN YOUR SUFFERING, THERE IS A PLACE FOR GRATITUDE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You might not see it right now.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And this isn't about fake or toxic positivity. It isn't even about looking on the bright side. Perspective, in this instance, isn't what we are talking about. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you look back on your life, when have the greatest changes happened? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⌛️you thought the breakup would devastate you, but the pain from that breakup had to be witnessed before there was energetic space for your current partner.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⌛️you wondered if you would be financially ruined by that bad investment, but instead, it led you to heal deeper financial trauma.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⌛️you struggled with infertility but that grief brought an intentionality and appreciation for your current family constellation.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⌛️therapy can be really, really hard but without it, transformation is impossible.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Post traumatic growth is not resiliency. It is the transformation that occurs when you work through your suffering. Your actual trauma has an impact, yes, but it is in the healing that something beautiful occurs. That is what I'm talking about. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Healing old wounds takes time. It takes compassionate witnessing. It takes kindness towards yourself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How are you doing in these areas? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Schedule a call if you want to talk more. The link is in my bio.
My sister-in-law introduced me to a new show this My sister-in-law introduced me to a new show this weekend. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Couples Therapy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I love shows that bring the viewer into a deeper place with the characters. And of course, nothing lights me up like the inner workings of individuals, couples, families, and communities. ​⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ l listen to the individuals on the show talk about themselves and their relationships and, because of my training, can't help but hear the patterns of their personality. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tonight, I watched Desean have an "aha" moment. I don't know his type, but I'd guess he identifies with Enneagram type 9. When he heard himself say this, he was taken aback. But he got in touch with his deep fear of being unloved. He twists and manipulates, withdraws and stays quiet, all because he worries that engaging with the world will disrupt the peace. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And there it is. What people most want from those identifying with point 9 is engagement. This fear lies just underneath the surface. If this is you, you might relate to being⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✅easy-going⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✅laid back⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✅agreeable⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✅quietly happy⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Those are beautiful qualities, but if you are attached to identifying with those qualities, you might be missing the opportunity to do what is actually needed in a situation. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💯When the situation calls for engagement, engage. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💯When the situation calls for you to offer your perspective, offer it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💯When the situation calls for you to be angry, because you are, then feel the anger.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💯When the situation calls for you to show up, show up. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We need to hear from you, Type 9s. Book a call and I'll show you how. Link in Bio.
I NOTICED THIS EMPTY LIFEGUARD CHAIR THIS MORNING I NOTICED THIS EMPTY LIFEGUARD CHAIR THIS MORNING AND IT MADE ME THINK ABOUT INNER GUIDANCE. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Are you someone who needs someone sitting in the chair before you venture into the water? Or are you someone who dives right in without a second thought?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Neither of those options are great demonstrations of being tuned in to your natural intelligence; your own inner guidance. So what would that look like?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It might mean checking in with yourself around safety, the depth and current of the water, your ability to swim, and whether you have the physical energy to stay the course. Inner guidance might even mean that you have to ask someone if it is safe to swim. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How often do you:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ❓ask others for their thoughts as a way to reinforce what you already know? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ❓look for support by soliciting agreement? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ❓impulsively leap into action without thinking or feeling first?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ❓ignore the intelligence of your instincts like hunger, thirst, connection with people or adventure and excitement?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ❓underperform or overwork because you don't pay attention to what is actually called for⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In my work, I see it when a client has a pattern of asking for advice from their friends and family but doesn't actually take the advice. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So the question I often ask is, "What do you know about it?"⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 99% of the time, they know exactly what they need to know. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Notice where you ask others rather than trust your own inner guidance. Or impulsively leap into something without even checking. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Remember that sometimes, your inner guidance will actually tell you that you need to ask for help or need more information. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It isn't about having all the answers. It is about having ONE answer.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tap the knowing in your gut, heart, and mind. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is the best there is.
EVERY PERSON AND EVERY TYPE FEELS ANXIOUS. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It doesn't mean that you actually exhibit DSM criteria for an anxiety disorder. Diagnostics are for insurance. But let's talk about how to recognize it and work with it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you are a head-centered type, meaning someone who spends a lot of time thinking, figuring out, planning, anticipating, or strategizing, you might have interpreted sudden changes, surprises, or lots and lots of flexibility as a threat to your safety and security. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As a result, your brain is still imprinted with that messaging. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It might look like: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤞🏽getting agitated by a change in plans, regardless of whether the change is objectively a better option or not⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤞🏽wanting a commitment or guarantee that a plan is going to happen the way you'd like it to⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤞🏽be concerned with agreements and rules, either doing all you can to live by them and encourage others to do the same OR bucking the rules and doing the opposite⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤞🏽being thrown when an expectation of yours has not been met⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As an adult, you can be easily triggered by this stuff. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Check in with your head center, the center that seeks certainty and predictability. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💡What is true right now?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💡What is called for right now?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💡How much certainty do I need right now? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ One of these will usually do the trick. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you want to talk more about this stuff, join us oover on MN in a private group of Seekers asking similar things. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✅Link in bio.

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